How To Supercharge Your Friendships, In 5 Easy Steps.
We’re all guilty of leading busy lives, myself included, often overlooking the time we spend with the ones closest to us when it matters most. Living away from most of my friends, I made a vow to re-evaluate my actions and focus my time into revitalising my efforts with my closest friends, the ones that have been and continue to be, consistently committed to our friendship.
As I’ve gotten older, I've realised the importance of time, it’s the one thing that makes me feel valued as a mate. If someone uses their time to come to see me, pick up the phone, or even think of me - I really appreciate it. Categorically, friendships do not work if they are one-sided, they require the responsibility and drive from both parties. To quote New Radicals, you only get what you give.
I supercharged my friendships and instantly felt better in myself for reciprocating the effort. If you feel like you could use a helping hand supercharging yours, we've got you covered with 5 easy steps:
Don’t rely on group chats to keep in contact.
Sure, group chats can be a great way to catch up with everyone at once, but can you remember the last time you spoke to each friend within said group chat alone? If you can, you can probably ignore this tip! But if not, remember that group chats can make your friendships less personable, and could lead to relationships drifting. Group chats were designed to save time, but remember, time is a valued currency when it comes to friendship. Pick up the phone, have a good old chin wag, I can guarantee there'll be more to catch up on than you initially realised.
2. Catching up one on one as much as you do as a group.
Take the time to meet each other one on one, this affirms friendship by showing you genuinely committed to one another, as opposed to always meeting in a group setting. If you’re part of a bigger group, it can be difficult to chat one on one when there are lots of you. I think this is a really important one if you live away from your friends, it's easy to become complacent, and it feels awful.
3. Sending a small gift out of the blue if you see something they might like.
There doesn't always have to be a reason like a birthday or christmas to give gifts, sometimes, it can be more special to send them out of the blue. Everyone likes surprises, and there's an overwhelming feeling of thoughtfulness when you receive one. I was recently in a bookshop, when I saw a cookbook that I knew one of my friends would love, so I picked it up for her and sent it her way in the post. It's nice to be nice, and she really appreciated it.
4. Reminisce on good times.
I can't be the only person that smiles when a friend tags you in a really old photo/video? It's a feeling that elicits the memories you've made and the fun that you had, and most importantly, the reason you are friends. What better reason to keep on making memories?
5. Make plans to do something you might not normally do together.
Furthering on from point 4, why not make new memories doing things that wouldn't normally be your cup of tea? Make plans to push boundaries and be fearless together. Having something booked like a charity run, a festival or a holiday can really give you something to look forward to and focus your energies on!