#WEARECONFIDENT - SIAN'S STORY
My name is Sian, I am 25 and a Corporate Account Manager from Northern Ireland.
As a 25 year old woman I can proudly say I have reached a point in my life where I am comfortable with who I am as a whole. I am succeeding in my career, I feel body confident, I have a fabulous group of friends and a wonderful social life.
Rewind the clock to 6 years ago when where I am today would have been a place I never thought I would reach.
In November 2012, 2 months into my university life, another human being physically rugby tackled me at the top of a flight of stairs in a nightclub. I suffered not only serious physical injuries to my face and body but also mental injuries which admittedly were a greater battle to overcome. At 19 years of age I had to make the decision whether I was going to let this event define me or whether I was going to tackle each battle it brought me head on and win the war. After 6 weeks of not being able to eat, 12 weeks with missing teeth, and serious pain in my back along with complete loss of balance, my physical injuries were tough but I knew they would heal.
From an outsiders view I had made it back to Newcastle to university; I was back at work; I got my teeth fixed - nothing wrong with me? The reality was I was suffering from post traumatic depression; short term memory loss and my confidence had been totally shattered. In this situation I was fortunate to have people surrounding me who loved me and were there to remind me who I was.
Little moments make big differences to people with depression, a moment of realisation can heal someone in a way you didn’t know.
One of the girls said to me “there is not one of us who could have dealt with this situation with the strength and determination that you have” - little did she know what a difference that made.
I consciously battled my way through the down days and put on a brave face until it became easier and easier. The depression lifted, I was getting there. I started rehab, after being cleared to exercise 2 years on, which I can’t thank my personal trainer enough for. We both worked hard at strengthening my core so I could sit up out of bed with ease. There was no focus on image, all on how I felt which was totally refreshing.
Fixing the physical issues then in turn helped with my confidence which has grown over the past few years and got me to where I am! Your mental health is so important and I am so glad to see people in influential roles creating awareness. Everyone of us is fighting our own battle!
Us girls should always act like the girl in the toilet on a night out...you are beautiful, where did you get your dress, your makeup is fabulous! Build others up as often as you can because you don’t know when you might need that comment to lift you!
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have”
Love, Sian x